Sometimes, our biggest obstacle is ourselves. With so many things on our plate and so much that seems to stand in our way, it is easy to lose faith, to stop believing and end up off our intended path. You may even lose sight of the end-goal. Here is what you need to know before getting melancholy about your aspirations.
Seeing is Believing
Find people to look up to, preferably in your field, but anyone who has reached their desired goal can inspire you to continue to reach for yours. Sometimes you just have to see that it is possible and that something has already been done in order to see yourself there. For example, Chance The Rapper is 23 years old, making money off of what he loves to do, and helping people in the process. Vera Wang did not start designing wedding dresses until she was in her 40’s. Who do you look up to? Who makes you want to be better?
Be about action. The more you do for your dream, the more attainable it begins to seem.
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Surround yourself with believers. Believers are a combination of dreamers/hopefuls and move-makers. They can provide words of encouragement, wisdom and positivity. Entrepreneur, producer, and author, Russell Simmons, (as well as multiple other successful people) said, “Surround yourself with people who are smarter than you.” The idea may sound strange at first and possibly a little insulting, but think of it this way; if you are trying to “level-up”, who better to learn from than someone who has already made it to a level beyond yours?
Fear, Laziness & Distraction
Being fearful or uncertain, being lazy, and becoming distracted, are three things that can easily and quickly throw you off your chartered course. Don’t be afraid. People always say that the only thing to fear is fear itself. Let’s go against that and use fear as a propeller. If your goals make you feel less than certain about life, then you’re likely on the right track. Fear is sometimes referred to as the acronym for “False Evidence Appearing Real”. It is just the mind’s way of making things seem worse or more intimidating than they really are. So again, do not be afraid.
Another thing just itching to hold you back is laziness. You can make a list of things to do all you want, but another part of you can say you have all the time in the world to do it. You can be extremely focused on Tuesday and by next Tuesday you will have forgotten you had a plan to keep in motion. That may be a combination of laziness and distraction. It is so easy to find something else to occupy your mind and your time and before you know it, weeks go by with no progress towards your goal. It doesn’t mean you do not want to reach your goal. It just means you are human and could use some help getting back on track.
One good way to combat laziness is to stand up. It is simple and it works. You can say you’re going to the library all you want while laying in bed, but until you stand up, put your shoes on, and pack your backpack, you are likely going nowhere. After all the effort, it took to get up and get ready, you might as well keep pushing right?
One good way to combat distraction is to learn your habits. If you know your pitfalls, you have a better chance of avoiding them. If you learn the areas in which you thrive, you will be able to make the most of your time. For example, you may be able to do math homework in the comfortability of your room, but not read in your room. You may read better on the bus or in a coffee shop setting. Television may distract you but not the background noise of people going about their day.
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(Prepare yourself for a bombardment of clichés.) Messing up is something that comes with finally moving. You cannot fail if you do not try, but if you do not try, then you automatically fail. Anything worth having is worth fighting for. It is not about how you fall; it’s about how you bounce back. If you believe something to be your purpose, do not be discouraged by “No’s” and setbacks. Stay consistent. Some clichés become cliché for good reason; they prove to be true time and time again.
When fear, laziness, distractions and setbacks are keeping you bound, you must fall back on your motivation. Remember why your goal is what it is. Remember who you are reaching it for. If your goal has no good reasoning behind it, then you may want to rethink your goal.
Believing is seeing
Ultimately, if you do not visualize yourself there, you may never take action. If you do not believe in your own abilities, you may never envision a better future.
The poem “Invictus” reads, “I am the master of my fate. I am the captain of my soul.” Know your worth. Operate in that worth. With the right mindset, the unfathomable can become feasible.
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Cynthia M. Sharpe, is a May 2015 graduate of NC State University. Cynthia graduated with a B.A. in English with a concentration in creative writing and currently aspires to pursue an M.F.A. in Creative Writing. “As I let my own light shine, I unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.” -Cynthia M. Sharpe, inspired by Marianne Williamson